COUNSELING FOR LOSS & INFERTILITY IN OAKLAND & ACROSS CA & FL

You can be doing everything right, but sometimes things still don’t go the way you want.

Infertility and loss are not your fault. And they don’t mean you aren’t meant to become a mother.

People don’t realize how isolating infertility is.

It keeps happening. Somebody else you know is pregnant. You’re asking yourself the same question over and over, “Why her? And not me?” This is an all too familiar feeling — the pain of trying to be happy for everybody else while you grieve the loss of your own baby or grapple with the unknown future of your family-to-be. This darkness isn’t something you’d wish on anyone and you just can’t understand why it has to happen to you. 

Life looks so different from what you pictured.

  • Pieces of your heart feel like they keep breaking as you imagine what your baby would’ve looked like or remind yourself what milestones they would’ve reached by now. Any type of loss around you can feel triggering, and the weight of previous losses makes you anxious. Not only are you grieving—you’re wondering what is next for yourself and your family.

  • It’s hard to feel anything but overwhelming worry about getting too attached for fear of another heartbreaking loss. You continue week after week with bated breath, desperately aching for everything to look healthy and normal.

  • It’s isolating and frustrating to feel like something is “wrong” with you. Everybody else seems to have no trouble getting pregnant and you’re left behind with countless fertility apps, negative pregnancy tests, anxiety-filled doctor’s appointments, and unsolicited—sometimes hurtful—“advice” from everyone around you.

MY APPROACH

You are worthy—and always will be worthy—of a child.

What you’re going through feels like hell on earth. Some of the moments that hurt the most are when you have to pretend it doesn’t — but pretending to be okay doesn’t actually fix anything. It’s time to take care of yourself and stop suffering in silence. 

I provide a compassionate and nonjudgmental environment for you to explore your emotions, fears, grief, and hopes surrounding infertility or loss. So when I say this is a safe space, I really mean that. I have years of experience helping women who are deep in the trenches of becoming a mother. These mothers and mothers-to-be, like you, experienced devastating hardship in their path toward the role they’ve always wanted, but they found hope and healing as they stepped into the light that therapy can offer.

Here, you’ll discover a voice that honors what you’ve been through and teaches you how to find hope again.

Together we’ll develop strategies to manage the stress, anxiety, and grief that continue to weigh you down. You’ll learn how to build resilience and find meaningful ways to nurture yourself emotionally and mentally. This complex journey can sometimes involve many different decisions related to motherhood and beyond, like IVF, IUI, egg donation, and surrogacy. These choices are overwhelming and physically draining—I’ll be here to support and guide you as you navigate what’s in front of you and help you feel peace in whatever you decide. 

There will also be many days that we simply sit with your feelings. It’s important to remember that part of the healing process is allowing yourself intentional space and compassion. With the constant checklist that often accompanies the path to motherhood, it’s tempting to stay busy or distract yourself from your pain. I’ll be there to remind you to slow down and breathe, acknowledging what you’re feeling and moving forward at a pace that feels right for you.

Therapy for infertility & loss can help you…

  • Find hope & inner peace

  • Feel safe in your own body

  • Move forward while honoring your loss

  • Problem-solve & sort through the overwhelming fertility choices in front of you

  • Embrace new paths to parenthood

  • Heal from painful memories & experiences

  • Discover you are not alone

  • Cultivate peace in the unknown

find light and strength

Find light despite the darkness. And strength despite the pain.

Questions?

FAQs

  • Yes, therapy can be very beneficial for partners who are struggling. I will meet with anyone, not just women. I’m also happy to see couples who are interested in working with me.

  • It depends on your individual needs and goals. Timelines for therapy will always vary from person to person. Some individuals may find relief and healing in a few sessions, while others may benefit from longer-term therapy. Together, we'll find the most appropriate plan for you.

  • If you're experiencing emotional distress or grief in your personal journey to motherhood therapy can be incredibly beneficial. Whether you're facing fertility issues, miscarriage, or the loss of a child, therapy offers a compassionate and understanding environment to help you heal.

  • I draw on lots of different pieces of my training and experience, but two of the main methods I use are integrative talk therapy and Brainspotting. Learn more about Brainspotting here.

  • Yes, I work with women who are dealing with all different types of grief and loss, not just infertility and pregnancy.